I've actually never had any problems with the site. I was a free member back in 2006. And I moved on to a premium membership so I wasn't just communicating with creepy people. I've recently re-joined, and was upgraded to a premium 1-yr membership for free based on activity within a month or two of rejoining. Maybe it's a double standard male/female upgrade problem. I don't know. And I've def found what I've been looking for.