After waiting about 4 weeks to get in, I finally got a slot at adultswithbenefits. It's pretty good because they control the numbers of guys so the girls don't get spammed. Protects both the girls and allows the guys to get a $#*!ing reply for once!
I've done pof.com, match, aff and a few others -- this is the first where I've gotten replies and seem to be having some luck. I'll keep updated, but I have a good feeling about this one.
Wait sucked, but worth it.