As other critical reviews have mentioned, you get many messages from women, but most of them are generic, and few last more than one or two exchanges.
I receive tons of admirers, and my inbox regularly receives messages, but as soon as I open them, they ghost after a brief exchange if that. Mind you, these "women" reached out to me. I didn't contact them. They don't even respond to a simple greeting. One would think they'd at least be interested in an offer--it would cost them nothing. Not at all. Contact and ghost.
Every action costs 10 credits. That includes opening a message, sending a message to a profile you haven't contacted before, unlocking secret photos, "boosting" a message to supposedly increase its visibility, and checking if a message has been read. These credits add up quickly. I'm talking hundreds of dollars. Once you're down to your last 20 credits or so, the site offers you double what you would normally get with a given package (the highest being 1000 credits for $289, or 2000 if you take the "deal"). It's just a sleazy tactic to keep you running on the hamster wheel.
After consuming a few thousand credits and several months on the site, I've been on two dates, and arranged three that never materialized due to flakiness.
I'm a guy in my early 30s. Good shape. Good money. Plenty of hair. No grey. A number of women have asked me why I'm even bothering with SB instead of using a regular dating site, including both of my real dates. The point is that my "competition" is weak in comparison. Nevertheless, the results have been extremely disappointing. If it were just a personal shortcoming, I could accept that, but the behavior of these "women" makes no sense at all. I figure many of them are fakes, but I also suspect that SB deliberately manipulates the communication behind the scenes. It might throttle your messages to real profiles and send messages to you from real profiles (without their knowledge) to keep you spending more money. Absolutely ridiculous.
Why this site is rated a 4 is beyond me. The ROI is terrible. Do not waste your time here.