Ive tried most of these sites and you can usually tell within the first few weeks if its for you. I was with this site for about three weeks by now... Lots of messages, lots of flirts gifts but when the rubber hit the road nothing happened. Probably it's just not for me. I kept looking further and one of the best dating sites I've found so far was justcougars.com: lots of active and real women in my city and I have my first date set up already!